Dare to Lead, Brené Brown
- Public speaking:
- House lights at 50%
- Imagine audience are toddlers
- Studying leadership is way easier than leading
- A leader: anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes, and has the courage to develop that potential.
- Things to change
- We avoid tough conversations
- We manage bad behavior rather than dealing with root emotions
- Diminishing trust
- Not taking smart risks
- Defined by setbacks
- Too much shame, not enough learning
- Hiding opinions to avoid bad response
- Rushing too quickly to solution
- Values are gauzy
- Fear keeping people from learning
- Courage
- Rumble with vulnerability
- Living into values
- Braving trust
- Learning to rise
- Get clear who to take feedback from. Ignore cruelty from the cheap seats so you don’t develop a very thick sin.
- Choose people as a “square squad” to take feedback from
- Clear is kind
- Deal with fears and feelings, or deal with so much more bad behavior
- Daring to lead vs armored leadership
- Cynicism and sarcasm are the worst
- Assumption that sarcasm always (or often) attacking other
- Shame is the fear of disconnection, and has been considered the base emotion
- Ready to give feedback when you can own part of it and connect it to their strengths
- Emotions
- First reaction is a shitty first draft
- Share your SFD of situations with people